Changes ~ the other kind...

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In some instances changes really do come in with a ‘bang’.

And whether that is because we haven’t noticed  the build-up of small changes that quietly have laid the ground work for this one, great, big change that is suddenly and unexpectedly invading our lives and our environments; or whether it is one of this things whose time it is ~ and there they are, once the changes happen it is more often than not a shocking, and unpleasant experience.
 Out of the blue we may find ourselves in a situation that changes rapidly, is beyond our control, doesn’t seem to move in any purposeful direction that we can determine ~ and all we can do is to hold on for the ride!
It can feel like everything we knew is being taken apart to the point that we may get the sense that nothing is left, and with that we may even lose our sense of normalcy. Sometimes we discover that we weren’t at all who we thought we were; find out that things we always thought were very important to us are in fact easy to let go of...

When the initial chaos subsides, usually a new structure emerges.
The phoenix does rise from the ashes, indeed!

The danger of a sudden and enormous change that rips through our lives is that we become despondent as the changes take place and only find ourselves focussing on the negative aspects of what is happening. Like the sense that things are out of (our) control. Or the sometimes very practical sides of it ~ like being without a home, or finding yourself without a job.

Yet the moment we can bring ourselves to open to the positive aspects of the changes ~ we may see that we are given the opportunity to ‘start over’. That there can be a place where we can be at home that we might never have thought of ~ but there it is. We even may discover that we have better friends than we thought we had!

Then, when the dust is settled and we find our lives getting a sense of purpose and structure again ~ at that time when we can look back at that period in our lives when we went through these enormous changes ~ we may well find that we have emerged from that period a stronger, better person.
And as time moves on, perhaps there will be a moment when we recognize that while the whole process of the changes was scary, chaotic, a period of darkness even ~ it has turned out to be a blessing in disguise as it has forced us to move into a new direction; a new cycle in our lives!
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