Feeling Wronged

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Every once in a while something happens to us that we feel is unjust.
In the very least it is our perception that there was no justification at all for that other person to do what they did unto us. It was totally uncalled for...
When something like that happens it often involves another person, a company, or a group of people that we feel have wronged us. And our initial reaction can be one of ‘rightful indignation’.

If we don’t catch ourselves right in that moment and halt ourselves ~ our reaction can easily progress into frustration and even anger. And those emotions ~ even though they do have a productive function in our lives as well ~ can then start to live a life all their own; eventually turning us into a grumpy, angry, bitter, unhappy person...

Personally, I am convinced that this is not how my live is meant to be.

Which then begs the question as to how to handle those things that happen to us in our daily lives that are ‘totally uncalled for’?

The first thing to look at is if what happens actually is about you, personally, or whether that other person is just reacting to something that went on in his or her life ~ which means it has nothing to do with you. All there is to it is that you were at that place at that time the other person was there too...
If that is the case, there is no use in getting angry about what happened. It is perhaps best to shrug your shoulders, release any ‘righteous indignation’ we may have felt coming up inside ourselves, and be on our way.

The second thing to see is if there is a chance that at least part of what happened is about us. If it is showing us something about our path, about our lives where we can act differently. If this is the case we are often a lot quicker to react with anger, however, that anger is not necessarily about the situation at hand ~ where we may feel actually wronged ~ but it may well be about this other situation in our lives that we perhaps have difficulty handling.
If this is the case, our anger has a ‘signal function’, telling us that there is something in our lives that is waiting for us to observe and be handled. And as a signal function, experiencing about 30 seconds of anger is enough to pick up on what really is the matter. After that we can release the anger we felt and move on with our lives.

When we feel wronged in most cases it is a good idea to thank, forgive and release ~ to thank that nothing major happened, or because of the signal given to us; to forgive in order to break all ties we may have with that situation, and to release that situation...
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