Friday, August 1, 2014

Social Media

More and more people seem to be spending more and more of their time interacting through Social Media. Even when there is nothing going on in life, it is worth telling the world about it… What we cook, and eat. Whether we are sleeping or are suffering from insomnia. What we are doing, mot doing, planning to do, dreaming of doing. If we are going somewhere, or have cancelled. It all is posted on Social Media, occasionally accompanied by selfies of the person posting it…

And when we are done posting about ourselves and our own lives, we often feel like we need to post about other people’s lives. About how the world is ‘going to hell in a hand basket’. And how ‘they’ should be doing things differently, should be coming up with different solutions, should make different choices, and on and on and on.

It makes for an interesting mix of a kind of exhibitionism, and looking outside of ourselves to point out to others what is wrong with the world.
On one hand we publish so much about ourselves, our likes and dislikes, and our selfies that at times one may think reading along that it is way too much information. On the other hand we seem totally unwilling to look at ourselves when it comes to problem solving, or handling situations we are faced with ‘in the real world’. That world that is out there; that doesn’t require a computer or smart phone to join.
That world where the sun may be shining, and children on a hot day are begging their parents for an ice cream cone.

Even in the world of Social Media it is easy to see polarities at work…
The digital world versus the physical world. Ourselves versus ‘them out there’.

Of course this is not the only function of Social Media. Social Media are a wonderful platform to stay in touch with friends, to share your thoughts, the music you like. They make it possible for your friends to ‘travel along’ on that adventurous trip you are making. From that perspective, Social Media allow us to expand our horizons and to make our own world bigger and more interesting.

The danger ~ if one could call it that ~ is that we focus on things that are super superficial, and combine that with an (un)healthy dose of negativity. It may be our opinion, and therefore worth posting from our perspective. But is that really the energy we want to bring forth into the physical world? That world where the rain may be breaking the heat spell, cleansing the air, and making it smell so good…

Perhaps, if we have nothing positive, productive, fun, loving, or kind to post ~ we just shouldn’t post it.

Tuesday, July 29, 2014


We tend to look at ‘positive’ in relationship to its polarity ‘negative’ only.
It seems that for the past number of years when there is anything positive, we tend to look at the negative aspect of it. To the point where being ‘too positive’ was even labeled ‘negative’; and one was quickly way too positive…

On the other hand, ‘negative’ is not necessarily  seen as ‘no, can’t do’, or the ‘un-form’ around a created shape; it mirror image in a sense ~ negative is often seen as having a sense of reality. It is as if one is looking for what is wrong, rather than what is right; and as it turn out that ‘wrong’ is often easy to find nowadays.

The thing is, the negative begets negativity. The more we focus on what is wrong, the more energy we feed in to the negative aspects of a situation, the bigger those negative aspects become.
The same is true, of course, for the positive…

The question then is raised where we would rather like to be; in a negative space, or in a positive space. A space filled with anger, frustration and finger pointing; or a space where the positive is consciously highlighted.

Looking at the news, it seems that more and more positive news stories are being published.
Stories about someone just doing something nice for someone else, a stranger even. About pets that are rescued. About people helping people.
About kindness.

It seems to be the start of a trend.
More and more people are turning away from the negative, and are consciously looking for that which is positive. Even in the midst of disaster, we can feel positive about the respect with which things are handled. We can celebrate how someone who is wrongfully accused regains freedom, rather than dwelling on the fact that once upon a time that person was jailed… We shouldn’t deny that it happened, however dwelling on it doesn’t help us in any way to turn it around.

As more and more people are choosing to focus on the positive, the positive becomes ‘newsworthy’. The more people who want to read about the positive, the easier it is to find it in print ~ be it on actual paper or digitally.

It is a trend that is worth joining.
Especially when things seem dark and difficult, negative even, it is worth to consciously look for something positive. Something that is beautiful. Something that makes us smile.

Thursday, July 24, 2014


We all have them, distractions. Just when we are set to do things we want to do ~ or that need to be done ~ something else comes up. Something small. Something we can take care of in a hurry, and then we will do what we set out to do. Or something more fun than the things that need to be done. Something that we feel is going to make our life easier later on, or more relaxing, or…
And before we know it, time has passed without us ever touching the things we had planned to do. And it is not that we don’t do anything, or just were ‘lazing around’ necessarily. We have been busy with other things.
Or at least that is often my excuse when I get lost in distractions.

Truth of the matter is that often we have made ourselves busy with other things, just so we don’t have to start with what we had planned in the fist place. When this happens, distractions are a form of procrastination…

As such, distractions are one of the most detrimental things that can stand in the way of us reaching our goals. Worst case is that we never truly start on the path to our goals; yet even when we do start the process, with every distraction we allow to take us off that path, it seems that the accomplishment of our goals is ‘stolen’ from us as it interrupts our focus and invites the mind to wander unto different, often less productive avenues.

But what if the same kind of distraction butts in time and time again? When it is a similar situation that requests our attention instead of the goal we had set for ourselves?

At first, it seems frustrating when this happens. No matter how focussed we are, this other situation keeps coming up with such persistence that we do need to pay attention. Our natural response may well be to deal with the frustration; to transform it, and to move forward on the path toward our goals.

But when this happens, could it be the Universe knocking at our door, telling us that there is another goal waiting for us to achieve; another potential waiting to be unfolded? Is it the Universe indicating that a change in direction is more beneficial to us that accomplishing the goals we have set for ourselves ever can be?

There are any number of ways we can tell the difference between distractions that lead to procrastination, and distractions that turn out to be messages from the Universe.
If we spend our time and energy on distractions that don’t bring us fulfillment, and that are costing us money ~ then it is time to focus!
Yet if we feel truly fulfilled after having paid attention to the ‘distraction’, or when the monetary aspect of life falls into place as we are paying attention to those ~ usually persistent ~ distractions…
Then chances are it hasn’t been a ‘distraction’ after all…

Tuesday, July 22, 2014


There are all kinds of food.
Health food, whole food, fast food, junk food, comfort food, frozen food…
The interesting thing is that we don’t specify what it is we are eating, we just name a category of our choice to indicate what is on our plate at that moment. This in itself is not as new as we might think; we never truly indicated exactly what we were eating in the good old days either; at that time it was ‘meat and potatoes’.

It seems like we can be divided into two groups when it comes to food:
  • Ultra careful with food and diet.
  • Opportunistic where food and diet are concerned.
The first group often will research what food is healthy, often leading to a diet that is felt will benefit them. These benefits can be health benefits, weight benefits, or just the fact that it makes you feel good when you are doing the right thing.
The second group often seems to make the ‘easy choices’. Pre-prepared meals, comfort food; food that doesn’t take a lot of time to prepare and will fill you up fast.

Whether we are perhaps paying too much attention to the food we eat, or maybe paying too little heed to what we eat; either way it may lead to taking on a diet that on paper is totally healthy for us, or at least makes us feel good, yet which may not be what our bodies need. Especially in the energy we live in at this point in time.

As we are going through changes, the food requirements our bodies have may change as well.
At one time we probably needed lots of carbohydrates because we were involved in hard, physical labor. As the work we do became more mental in nature, one could argue we started to need more proteins and less ‘carbs’…
That being said, whatever nourishment our bodies need is a very personal thing. Saying this one diet is healthy may well be true in general, yet could be even better adjusted for each person, as each person is different and has different needs.

The best way to find out what your body truly needs ~ other than what you want, or what you feel is tasty, comforting, filling etc. ~ it is a good idea to start a conversation with your body and let it help you choose the specific foods that are best for you at that moment.
It takes some getting used to, but when you get the hang of it, it is actually a fun game…

And whichever food you choose to eat, it will benefit you most if you pay attention to it. If you see, it, smell it, taste it, savor it ~ and finally thank it for the sustenance it has give you.

Friday, July 18, 2014

Rollin’ with the punches

Sometimes it seems like so many things ar happening around us that influence us, that all we can do is to roll with the punches. Like we become a ball that is pushed and kicked in all different directions. A feather, blown in whichever direction the next gust of wind is choosing…

From a certain perspective, rollin’ with the punches is not a bad thing at all, it means that we accept what is dealt to us; accept the situation as it occurs and handle appropriately. For most people this works great as long as we don’t get overwhelmed with ‘punches’. As long as we are facing one situation at a time, and have enough time to regroup between things that are happening in our lives to enjoy a sense of accomplishment brought on by the process of ‘rollin’ with the punches’.
From the moment we are faced with the situation, to the acceptation of the situation, to handling the situation and resolving it to the best of our ability.

The problem occurs when so many things are happening around us and to us, that we loose grip. That we are at a loss as to where to begin, where to look first… And pretty soon we may feel like we have no control, not even a sense of participation in what is happening; all we are doing is rolling in a certain direction until the next blow changes our direction.

This can give us a sense of impotence; a sense that everything is happening to us, without us having the ability to step in and handle it. A feeling that we are a victim of circumstances.
And depending on conviction, the world, or even the universe are to blame for our predicament.

Another way to look at what is happening is to take a moment, to allow yourself space and time to be quiet and as peaceful as you can muster. From this state of being we pick that situation that seems most important in our lives right now, and we ask ourselves: ‘What can I do today to handle it, to organize it? What can be a step out of it that I can take today?
And with every step we take, we will feel less victimized and while we may not be in control exactly, at least we are participating in the outcome of that particular situation.

There is nothing wrong with ‘rollin’ with the punches’, as long as we use it to see the situation, to accept it as it is, and to take action to resolve it.