Friday, October 17, 2014


Today I keep thinking of Winnie the Pooh; more precisely about this little discussion he has with Piglet:
   “What day is it?” asked Pooh
   “It’s today” squeaked Piglet
   “My favorite day” said Pooh

It is something that is so easily forgotten, that today is that time that we have, right here, right in front of us. Yesterday is history, and tomorrow is yet to come. But today is here to be experienced, to be lived to the fullest.
After all we never know what live will bring, what problems we may have to face some other day; or even if there will be another day at all… Therefore, today should be our favorite day, every day.

So today things didn’t happen quite as expected. Of course, life hardly ever does. We can make plans, and take steps toward making those plans happen, yet sometimes, when it gets to be ‘today’ things happen, plans change. This may well be because we get distracted.
The question then becomes why we allow ourselves to be distracted. Is there anything not quite the way it should be with our plans, or with the way we propose to make our plans reality? Because sometimes those distractions are really pointers that while our plans are well thought out, there is something that can make the end result even better for us than we had ever anticipated.
Then again, other times distractions are just that, distractions. Excuses that ‘happen’ and that are giving us a reason to not do those things we had intended to do today.

And then there are those days that our flow of events is interrupted by an event so momentous, that it takes our attention, our focus right off whatever we were doing. It may be something that we are directly involved in, or can be something that grabs hold of us because it is happening close to us; close to where we work or live.
When something like that occurs, it just stops us in our tracks; it makes us reevaluate our priorities in life. And it can make us grateful for today. Grateful that today we can bask in the sunlight, enjoy our families, and make plans for other ‘todays’…

So, from that perspective, today is where it is at.
Today we can actually do things ~ as opposed to yesterday or tomorrow. Today we can either take or reject what life has to offer. Today we can make choices that may affect how we experience our lives, not only today, but also for the days to come.

So I agree with Pooh, today is my favorite day!

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Holding on

If there is any advice that feels a tiny bit problematic at least, it is the advice to ‘let go of that you no longer need in your life’. It is something that is relatively easy when you are talking ‘stuff’. When the new house doesn’t have a lawn, there is no use in holding on to the old lawn mower. Or, as we may have lost weight, holding on to the old wardrobe seems futile, if not counterproductive. And so we let go of the items we no longer need.

When we are looking at experiences we may have had way back when, or emotional situations that have left their mark on our lives, ‘letting go of it’ isn’t quite as straightforward or easy.
We can make a conscious decision to place it in the past ~ where it belongs ~ so that it can no longer be a part of our lives today. Often this will work, especially when we combine that with exercises of affirmations that keep reinforcing our decision for as long as it takes for the result to be ‘natural’. For us to get to that point where we can truly say that it is no longer part of our lives in this moment.
A lot of times a process like that won’t work. No matter how hard we try, the experience, the emotions keep popping up; usually at times when we are least expecting them.

So perhaps, rather than working at ‘letting go’, the real question is why we are still holding on?

What is it in our lives that prompts us to hold on to things, feelings, experiences that are no longer useful to us? Is it a sense of security? Or something that we have always held true because of how we respected the person who told us it was so? Is it a cultural belief on how to behave as a ‘good person’? There are all kinds of reasons why we hold on to things, feelings, and experiences; most of them personal, all of them individual…
And until we know our own, personal reason why we are holding on to something, it is going to be hard to let go of.

The other thing that makes the question even more difficult to answer is that there is hardly ever a nice, concrete, logical reason why we are holding on to something. More often it has to do with how things, situations, or even people are connected in our minds; in our memories…

That being said, it is probably worth the effort to ponder the question; ‘If I have a hard time letting go, what is the reason for me to hold on to it?’

Friday, October 10, 2014


In this point in time where there are polarities wherever we look, it is like pretty much everything has pros and cons, for-s and against-s, even ‘good’ and ‘bad’ sides to it. At the same time it doesn’t make anything good or bad, in all reality; it is just our perspective at what is happening. And it seems that we are much more willing to take a stand on one side or the other of the issue than we have been in the past.

The same is true for being tired.
There is ‘good’ tiredness, the sense of being tired after a hard days work or play. A feeling of tiredness that is connected to any kind of activity, be it physical, mental, emotional, or even spiritual.
And then there is ‘bad’ tiredness. Being tired without having done anything, leaving nothing to show for it. It is a kind of being tired that is often connected to stress in some form. Perhaps the stress of a deadline at work, or the stress of being in a situation where we feel pushed into a corner without seeing a way out.

While ‘good’ tiredness is often remedied with a good nights sleep from which we are waking up refreshed and ready to conquer a new day; ‘bad’ tiredness has a tendency to linger on. And if we don’t take steps to turn it around, it may lead us on a downward spiral where each day seems heavier, and more difficult than the day before. Pretty soon even the simplest tasks become mountains we have to climb in order to get where we want to go. And if the ‘bad’ tiredness is permitted to take over completely, it may leave us strung out and depressed…
This does suggest that in today’s world a lot of people who feel depressed may feel that way because they have been in a situation that has put a strain on them for too long, rather than facing any obvious mental or emotional difficulty.

The thing to remember is that they are polarities of the same energy.
And while that in it self doesn’t solve the problem of ‘bad’ tiredness; it does give us a way out! The most obvious way out may well be to seek out activities that are related to ‘good’ tiredness. Like taking a little walk every day, getting yourself a ten minute exercise program (even if that is just swinging your arms, or sitting down and getting up from a dining room chair).

Any physical movement will help bring movement in other areas of our lives, and ultimately help us to restore the balance between the polarities.

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Fear and stress

Fear is not necessarily a ‘bad’ thing, and in a sense the same is true for stress. There are many situations that can bring stress into our lives, situations we like or deem to be ‘good’ like first date butterflies, or situations that we feel we can do without, like being overcommitted in some shape or form. Whatever the cause of the stress, it will heighten our awareness and make us more vigilant. On the other hand, it is a state of being that, while it can help us in a short term, we shouldn’t accept as part of our lives in the long term as it can also damage our health.

From that perspective there are definite similarities between fear and stress.
When they are connected to something that is happening right there and then, something we are personally involved in that we can handle; chances are that the fear and associated stress in that moment will help us make the best choices in that split second, and take the right action in order to come out at the other end unharmed.

However, when they are connected to a situation that is out of our control, a situation that is not imminent, a situation that is played up and fed by the media as something that may happen, both fear and the associated stress can keep building in our systems. It will take away our discernment as to when to act quickly and decisively; yet even when we do, the stress won’t go away…

The result may well be that because of the extended period in which we experience feelings of fear and stress, our immune systems start weakening. Making us more susceptible to disease. And when we are in a general state of unease, or dis-ease, we may not be quite as aware or vigilant as we would normally be, or perhaps go to the other side of the spectrum and become extremely aware and hypervigilant. We may not sleep as well, and still feel restless…
And bit by bit, over time, we deplete the natural resources our bodies have to deal with things, to be healthy and happy.

Perhaps the best way to deal with the fear and stress that are brought on by events that are happening on a worldwide scale, yet are not affecting us on a personal level, is to send Light to all those that are involved. Independent if we personally agree the situation, the actions taken and how things are playing out; send Light. Pray for the best outcome for them, for us and for the world in general.

And then let it, and the fear and stress associated with it, go…

Saturday, October 4, 2014


There are two kinds of fear; the fear of what is righting front of us, like the fear of being run over by a car when we are crossing the road, and the fear of things that may or may not come our way in the future, like an epidemic that is roaring its ugly head on a different continent…
And while the first experience of fear is immediate and related to our ‘fight or flight’ reactions, the second experience of fear has a tendency to creep into our system slowly while at the same time fails to show us a way out. The experience of this type of fear is often accompanied with the sense that we cannot do anything about it, and therefore there is no safe place for us to go, nothing we can do on a personal level to escape impending doom.

The immediate fear is in most cases very helpful to our survival in the world we life in. As long as it doesn’t get out of hand and starts ruling our lives, it prompts an evaluation and reaction that prevents us from doing something that could put us into danger. Like just walking out into traffic. It also comes up right when it is needed and dissipates fairly quickly after that. Granted, in some cases when we have had a ‘close call’ it may take a couple of days for us to overcome that pang of fear. But as long as we celebrate the good outcome, and not keep rehashing the close call in our memories, chances are we are back to being ourselves the next day ~ feeling fine, and hopefully a little wiser as we may have learned from the situation…
The feeling of fear and the associated stress have gone from our systems.

The sense of fear of future events isn’t by any means as straightforward. It is related to the thought that says ‘that could happen to me, to us’. It is a fear that is often fed, not by the threat itself ~ be it economic, violence, an epidemic or whatever ~ but rather by what we see, hear or read about it on the news. It is presented in a way that we need to insulate ourselves from that situation, and in order to do so we need to take big, sometimes worldwide, actions. We need to guard our borders such that this thing we are afraid of cannot enter.
At the same time, we are generally told that there is nothing we can do about it on a personal level. The natural reaction then, is for the fear to linger in our systems, and for stress about this situation that is well outside of our realm of influence to keep building.

So while an immediate fear can help us to stay alive, the fear of future events doesn’t really do anything for us, except for adding stress to our already stressful lives…