Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Motivation

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We all have our own motivation to do the things we do, to act the way we act, and to say the things we say. The fact that we are allowed to express our opinions in whichever way we see fit and to act upon them is one of those very precious things in life we call freedom…
That freedom has a lot to do with society and culture; with the people around us and the social mores we live by. In other words, at least at the surface this freedom is something that is granted to us by the society we live in; and therefore stems from outside of ourselves.

Our motivation to do, or not do something, to say something or be silent, to act or sit back is usually much more complicated.

Often our motivation is provided from outside of ourselves. For instance the motivation for being on time for the start of your shift at work may well be the paycheck at the end of the month, which you need in order to pay the bills. This may also be true when looking at the decision to speak up or not; very few people find the strength and courage inside themselves to become a whistle blower. And for good reason. Therefore the wiser choice may well be to stay silent…

Yet in this day and age it seems to be more and more important that the things we do ~ like our job ~ are something we are passionate about. Even though we may have to work harder to make a living, when we are doing something we feel passionate about it seems that ultimately the earnings come in more easily than when we are just ‘going through the motions’.
Doing the things we are passionate about usually are things that we feel motivated about from within. There is an inner drive, an inner guidance to set out and do those things. And when we do, we almost always feel more fulfilled as a result.

In other words, while there will always be an ‘outer motivation’ for any number of the things we do, our ‘inner motivation’ seems to become a more and more important part in making choices as to where to spend our time and energy. As to what we want to be part of, and what we choose to walk away from. As to what we want to say, and when to be quiet; and if we still want to speak up, how we choose our words.

As time goes on, our inner compass will become a more and more important part of our motivation for living our lives the way we choose to…
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Friday, August 15, 2014

Effect

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Pretty much everything we do is about the effect it is going to have. Therefore it is important to figure out what we are trying to achieve; what the most desired effect of our actions is.
And while we are sometimes just interested in pulling a prank on someone, more often we engage in more serious activities. We work a job to get a pay check. We clean the house and create the nicest of environments in order to make our house a home.

Yet it always starts with the effect we have in mind…
The dream we want to make come true. That one thing we want to see or do in our life time ~ which leads to the ‘bucket list’; the things we want to do before we ‘kick the bucket’. We want to be successful in whichever way we define ‘success’ for ourselves.
And once we have determined what the effect is we are going for, we device a plan of action that will get us there. In other words, we put the ‘cause’ in motion.

At least that is the plan…

The fact that it doesn’t always work out exactly that way becomes clear as we are living our lives. Almost on a daily basis we may come across ‘effects’ that we did not set out to achieve. At least on on a conscious level of thought or planning. Suddenly something happens, or we find ourselves in a situation where we never wanted to be, and yet, here we are.

As it is clearly an effect of something, in cases like this it is important to find what caused that specific effect to crop up in our lives so unexpectedly.
And like is true with the planned and desired effects we bring into our lives, these unplanned, unwanted effects we find ourselves facing often have a cause that is very close to us. It may be an attitude, an emotion. It can be one of our life lessons that has caused this in order for us to pay attention to something we may have overlooked before.

IN this day and age it seems that very often the somewhat hidden cause to the unwanted effect can be found in a certain indignation; or even in a perspective that says that ‘the world owes me …’. Like ‘I am a nice, spiritual person, and therefore nasty things shouldn’t happen to me’. Or: ‘I have given so much in the past, now I deserve to be given this thing I really want.’

Given the fact that those type of perspectives rarely result in the effects we desire, one could say we are better off adapting a more genuine, more kind attitude in dealing with the word around us…
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Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Symptoms

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It seems that nowhere in life do we encounter more ‘symptoms’ than when we are looking at our health. It is in health related things that the word is also used most ~ so that makes sense. Sort of.

Perhaps the most widespread symptom is that we experience pain when something is going on with our bodies, physical, emotional, or mental. That pain then is a symptom that something is not right, and will often kick off the search for what is causing it such that this cause can be treated.

Symptoms are used to diagnose what is going on with our system; our bodies and minds. This way, difficulty breathing may be a symptom of an allergy, or asthma. Or it can be a symptom that has nothing whatsoever to do with either allergies or asthma; in which case it brings up the dilemma on how to treat this particular symptom…

When there are multiple symptoms that may even seem unrelated, and yet are all important the whole situation becomes complex in a hurry. When this happens, the most difficult question to answer may well be whether all these multiple symptoms relate to one underlying cause, or if the multiple symptoms signal multiple problems with multiple causes…

As we are one being, chances are that at least at some level all symptoms are related. But that is not an obvious perspective… All too often it seems that each and every symptom is treated separately. Something that can work out great, yet in these changing times with an ever increasing energy frequency, it tends to often create more and unanticipated problems.

Somehow it seems that as everything within us and around us is changing, the way we look at, and deal with symptoms may also be changing.
So rather than looking at the symptoms that are apparent and treating every symptom separately; it seems to make more and more sense to observe each symptom and to search for what has caused it in the first place. And when the causes are found, to see whether these causes are somehow related to one another. If they are, great!! Then there is something that can be treated. Yet if there is no relationship between these causes, perhaps there is a cause behind the cause; and may be even a cause behind that one…
Ultimately there has to be either just one cause that, through a series of events caused all the symptoms ~ or just a few causes that are connected to one another and as such connect all of the symptoms.

After all, the symptom is just a sign; a signal caused by a situation or event  that needs our attention.
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Friday, August 8, 2014

The most fun thing

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What is the most productive, beneficial, pleasant, positive thing you have done last week?
And what is the most fun thing you have done last week??

We seem to have a tendency to remember the thing that didn’t happen; the things that didn’t work out the way we wanted them to work out, even the things that may have cost a lot of our time and even money with crystal clarity. We focus on what went wrong, when it happened, what we could have done different if only…
As we allow ourselves to let our thoughts drift into that direction, it often doesn't take long before we have convinced ourselves of one of two things:
We should have known better and therefore it is our fault, and we feel guilty about it.
We did everything right, if only that other person had kept up, had done things better, it would have worked out peachy!

In other words, we either end up feeling guilty about it, or we point our finger to those we blame for the way things didn’t work out.
Neither reaction is a productive one…

Of course there are many ways to look at things differently.
We can see whatever has happened as a lesson learned, knowing that we won’t make that same mistake twice. We may sit ourselves down in a quiet space and seek to discover what our part in that situation was, rather than just pointing fingers.
And we would be likely to learn a lot from it; learn about ourselves as well as about the situation that occurred and the other people involved.

But sometimes it is best to not allow ourselves to dwell on what didn’t go exactly as planned, and to focus on something that turned out to be heaps of fun! Something that was positive, pleasant, beneficial ~ and perhaps unexpectedly productive. Something that was one of those rare occasions of being at the right place at the right time so that everything fell into place better than we could have ever planned it.
And when we have identified one of those situations, we have plenty reasons to pat ourselves on the back and to congratulate ourselves with our amazing accomplishment.

If we would take time to focus on one thing that happened in our lives that brought us joy, one thing that put a smile on our faces; that one thing that was funny ~ chances are that we will find more of those popping up in our lives.
Making our lives more positive, more pleasant, and perhaps even more productive…
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Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Shock Value

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It seems that pretty much everything we see or experience in the media needs to have a certain ‘shock value’ in order to get our attention. If it is not something that is described in multiple superlatives ~ whether they are positive or negative ~ it seems that we don’t pay attention anymore.

As a result the news items depict the worst life has to offer, often in the most graphic ways possible. As long as it is ethical, an interesting way to say that it is a good thing to show the whole world the truth as it is seen through that particular camera at that particular place and time.

This being the age of polarities, it isn’t hard to find the polarity aspect of this. Like for instance in talent shows on TV. Where a couple of years ago those that sought to become known for their singing, their music, dance or any other entertainment skills tended to have somewhat of an amateurish flavor; nowadays that isn’t true anymore. And consequently we are blown away by stellar performances of people by all ages.

If we would just go by the ‘shock value’ of what is presented to us, it would seem that the world would exist solely out of those who commit some kind of violent acts, and those that display their God-given talent in the best way they know how.

Now, if I look around me on a regular day when I am going about my business, chances are I would see neither extreme occur.

Of course we may see someone cutting in front of us on the freeway or jumping the line at the register, and by the same token we may experience being helped by someone who is making the most of their job, happily and joyfully.
Luckily, for most of us that is the extend of these particular polarities in ‘real life’.

So why do we need that ‘shock value’ in the media?

In a sense it seems that as long as we can watch things that are ‘bigger than life’ in the media, we may be able to handle the everyday stuff in our real lives better. Easier.
After all, no matter how bad our own situation is at the moment, it could be a lot worse. And even though we are just singing in the shower, watching the talent shows give us something to strive for.

And while there is truth in that, it is also important to remember that as long as we need that ‘shock value’ to actually see what the media allow us to experience, the news, while factually true, may not reflect much of what is happening in our every day lives…

One could even say that taking everything into consideration, our lives, while lacking a certain ‘shock value’, are pretty good…
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