Pointing fingers

It is easy to point fingers when something goes wrong. And often we are indeed quick to point out what went wrong, why it happened, and most of all who we feel is responsible. On numerous occasions we tend to place that responsibility outside of ourselves.

So, we are not cut off in traffic because we are multitasking, or even because we ourselves are in a hurry, but it is plain and clear the other person’s fault ~ and by the way, how dare they! When we are late, it is our companion’s doing as he/she always takes so much time to get ready. And on and on…

Somehow we feel that things are easier when we can look upon ourselves as being a good person, and when everything that doesn’t go as planned is done to us by others. When we are in no way responsible for it. When we can point fingers.

While there is some appeal in not being at fault ~ after all, if we are not at fault we don’t have to start looking at how we behave, act, react; in short live our lives. Consequently we don’t have to make changes in our attitudes, or in the way we handle the situations we encounter.
On the other hand, when we feel that everything that doesn’t go as we planned it ~ or even things that hurt us ~ are done to us out of the meanness of those around us, we could say we would be living in a pretty lousy world. And when it is entirely the other people who are at fault, then we would have no power to change any aspect of what is happening.

From that perspective one might say that as soon as we start pointing fingers, we are giving our power ~ our empowerment ~ away in the worst way! As soon as we point fingers we assume the role of being a victim without having a way out.

The more spiritual perspective says that we are responsible for our own path through life, and what ever situations or events we encounter on our path are there for us to gain experience, to learn and to grow from.
And while we may not always have chosen ~ or even be part of ~ the actual event, there is always something we can learn from it. Ultimately, how we handle it inside ourselves ~ where our attitudes and beliefs are concerned ~ will either show us the easy way out, or give us another opportunity to learn that particular lesson.

This does make the statement: “When we are pointing one finger at another, we are pointing three fingers at ourselves” food for thought…
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