Friday, September 20, 2013


According to the dictionary an assumption is a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof. And I am assuming that the dictionary meaning takes ‘proof’ being factual proof rather than proof as it can be found in personal truth or intuitive insight...

Often, when we are assuming something, we know part of the story or situation and we fill in the blanks based upon our own logic or previous experience. And this way we make it our story rather than the experience of a line of events of those actually living it.
The truth is that if we don’t have all the facts, we shouldn’t write that story. If we feel we do want to write about it, it would be a good thing to ask what is really going on. To get the facts first...

That being said ~ it seems that most people find it way easier to make assumptions than to ask for the facts. As long as we make assumptions, we make the world around us more like the way we would like to experience it. We draw the picture with colors that we not only like, but that are also pleasant for us to look at. This way, we can draw a more positive picture, or a more negative picture, or even a picture that is ‘neutral’. Yet as it is not based on all of the facts, either way the picture is wrong.

Still, making assumptions is a very human thing to do.
And there are things that we accept as true that turn out to be true ~ even though we never had proof of it. By the same token, some things really do happen the way we had believed they would happen.
In all the instances where our assumptions turn out to not quite be ‘the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth’ ~ we often made them because as a human being we like stories with a beginning, a middle and a (satisfactory) end.

Yet in our search for a world view that fits our understanding, the moment we start making assumptions we make things less open, and more complicated. As soon as we make an assumption on how a certain situation will play out, we have blocked ourselves from seeing other avenues; other outcomes.
Assumptions not only short change the people living that particular story or situation; they also make us ourselves less than we can be. Less open minded. Less honest. Less helpful.

Then, when we find out that things aren’t quite the way we assumed they were ~ we can be in for a rude awakening...

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