In order to solve any problem, first one needs to identify what it is.
Some problems are quite obvious, others less so. And getting clarity in the more complicated situations often is the most difficult and time consuming part of solving the problem. The recognition of what the problem really is and how it functions in your life.
Therefore, rather than focusing on the final part of the process ~ the actual solving of the problem ~ paying attention to clarification and identification of the situation can be way more helpful...
How we do this is a personal choice as there are many avenues leading to that clear identification of the situation as well as how it is taking shape in your life.
Some people feel that meditating or pondering upon the situation will bring the awareness needed to see the full picture. Others write it out ~ putting their thoughts to paper until the desired clarity emerges. There are those that talk about the problem with others ~ to bounce their ideas and thoughts on the problem off a sounding board. To get some new or different input, to get out of the circle their own thoughts have been running around in... And this other person can be a therapist, yet can also be a good friend ~ just someone outside of the troubling situation and therefore having a more clear perspective on what is truly going on.
When we choose ‘to talk it out’ ~ to find someone who can give us feedback on the situation ~ an interesting dynamic can form in the sense that there can be a point at which the person having the problem says ‘Just tell me what to do to solve it, and I’ll do it’. Or even the person giving feedback being maneuvered into a position where it falls upon them to solve the other person’s problem. Something that hardly ever works out well.
Another dynamic that can occur is that the person who is only asked for feedback is willing to help to such extend that they start taking action in order to solve the other person’s problem...
This well intended action can ~ especially from a spiritual perspective ~ compound the problem rather than solving it, as it takes the process of ‘working it out for themselves’; the process of ‘learning your life lessons’ away from the person having the problem in the first place...
As our life lessons are often disguised as problems, as obstacles that make us stop and reevaluate what is going on in our lives ~ solving our problems can lead to a tremendous amount of personal growth!