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As we learn more and more about how to ride the waves of the flow of our lives ~ as we get more and more used to working with this flow rather than against it ~ chances are that we will become better at it.
Right now ~ at east when I look at myself ~ looking at the flow of life as well as sensing the flow toward my goals can be a somewhat frustrating exercise. They seem to cross paths too many times, where one then carries the other away pushing my life in often unanticipated directions that seem to frequently move me farther from my goals rather then towards them...
The easiest way to reach my goals therefore seems to lie in aligning the flow toward my goals with my life flow to the extend that both will move in at least similar directions ~ and at best in the same direction.
While it is a fairly logical perspective, it is easier said than done.
To get the flow toward my goals aligned with my life flow to the extend that I can ride them as one wave, requires that I get to know myself a lot better than I do. For it to work that way, I need to discover my ultimate goal or life goal, and make sure that my more short term goals will move me in the direction of this ultimate, or life goal.
The question then becomes: ‘What do I want out of life?’ In the short term, yet more importantly from an overall perspective.
It is an interesting path, which in and of itself is a flow...
It is also a question as well as a path, or flow of discovery that we can only follow ourselves. Other people may point out where we are dropping the ball from their perspective, but chances are that they are only seeing part of the picture and are focused on our stated short term goals.
As such, pointing out where we are failing can sometimes be just enough to change the direction of the flow we had so carefully built ~ or stop that flow entirely. Especially where any form of creativity is involved it is something that happens easily.
It can leave us frustrated that we have to not only evaluate the merit of the often well intended comment, but also have to rebuilt the movement and flow we had established to the point where we can start riding it again.
The good news is that the more we practice, the better we get at it, and the more fun it is going to be to ride the wave!
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Friday, August 30, 2013
Tuesday, August 27, 2013
Flow
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Where the energy 15 or so years ago was geared toward taking defined steps toward our goals in a structured order, right now the energy has become more of a flow.
This means that say 15 years ago we could plan with our goal in mind to take steps ‘A’ through ‘Z’ knowing where each step would bring us pretty much in advance ~ this is in the energy of today not the case anymore. The best we can do today is to direct the flow of events in the direction of our goal, and then enjoy riding the wave...
While 15 years seems a long time; it is not when we consider that we have learned to set our goals, plan the steps to take and then taking those steps ~ even when we had to push sometimes to make it happen ~ in a structured manner for hundreds of years. It has become an ingrained pattern through which we have come to reach our goals. This is the structure, the framework we should follow to make things happen.
Yet with all the changes going on in the earth, in the Universe ~ and therefore in the energies around us ~ the old, structured way of accomplishing our goals doesn’t seem to work quite as well as we had come to expect over past centuries. As it turns out, while there are still steps to take to get us to our goals ~ it has become increasingly hard to see the sequence of those steps ahead of time. Often the best we can do is to take a step in the direction of our goals, and then see where it is taking us. Based on that, we can define our next step toward our goals...
The more we loose the structure of the old age, the more there is a flow of energy. And each step we take toward our goals curbs that flow into the direction we desire to move into.
Sometimes this will lead us into ‘rapids’ which allow us to reach our goals faster and more effortless than we could have ever suspected. Other times the flow of life itself may carry us in a different direction entirely. This is not to say that we won’t reach our goals, but more that it will take a little longer; that we perhaps need to be a bit more patient.
Where in the past we could set the steps we were going to take in motion to then sit back until we had reached step ‘Z’. As long as we would keep the energy moving, this more often than not worked great.
In this point in time getting to where we want to go has become a little easier from the perspective that once we have given direction to the flow we can ride the wave ~ yet we had better stay on top of it!
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Where the energy 15 or so years ago was geared toward taking defined steps toward our goals in a structured order, right now the energy has become more of a flow.
This means that say 15 years ago we could plan with our goal in mind to take steps ‘A’ through ‘Z’ knowing where each step would bring us pretty much in advance ~ this is in the energy of today not the case anymore. The best we can do today is to direct the flow of events in the direction of our goal, and then enjoy riding the wave...
While 15 years seems a long time; it is not when we consider that we have learned to set our goals, plan the steps to take and then taking those steps ~ even when we had to push sometimes to make it happen ~ in a structured manner for hundreds of years. It has become an ingrained pattern through which we have come to reach our goals. This is the structure, the framework we should follow to make things happen.
Yet with all the changes going on in the earth, in the Universe ~ and therefore in the energies around us ~ the old, structured way of accomplishing our goals doesn’t seem to work quite as well as we had come to expect over past centuries. As it turns out, while there are still steps to take to get us to our goals ~ it has become increasingly hard to see the sequence of those steps ahead of time. Often the best we can do is to take a step in the direction of our goals, and then see where it is taking us. Based on that, we can define our next step toward our goals...
The more we loose the structure of the old age, the more there is a flow of energy. And each step we take toward our goals curbs that flow into the direction we desire to move into.
Sometimes this will lead us into ‘rapids’ which allow us to reach our goals faster and more effortless than we could have ever suspected. Other times the flow of life itself may carry us in a different direction entirely. This is not to say that we won’t reach our goals, but more that it will take a little longer; that we perhaps need to be a bit more patient.
Where in the past we could set the steps we were going to take in motion to then sit back until we had reached step ‘Z’. As long as we would keep the energy moving, this more often than not worked great.
In this point in time getting to where we want to go has become a little easier from the perspective that once we have given direction to the flow we can ride the wave ~ yet we had better stay on top of it!
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Friday, August 23, 2013
Public outcry
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There is no doubt in my mind that we are living in changing times.
We are changing, our lives are changing. Our values are changing. The very energy around us is changing... It stands to reason that we will come to expect our governments to start changing too. Perhaps not necessarily in changing political directions; or even changing political leaders as such. But certainly from a perspective where the conduct of our political leaders changes...
As of now it seems like politicians are still operating according to ‘how it has always been’. With all the political play, backstabbing and yes, a certain amount of dishonesty ~ or at least circumstances where not the whole truth is being told. And not in the least an attitude that they will tell us what is best for us.
In more and more situations we know very well what is best for us ~ and that is not always the same thing our governments tell us is best for us.
And as we are changing, our lives are changing, our values are changing ~ and governments that are still telling us what is best for us according to old, if not ancient, standards; a gap is opening. In essences a gap between ‘us’, the public, and ‘them’, our leaders.
In any number of situations where common sense seems to point toward a good solution ~ which then is blocked by our leaders because it doesn’t fit their perspective on the (or even their) future ~ a public outcry ensues.
This becomes quite obvious on the internet where more and more sites come up organizing petitions for a great variety of causes.
Some of the causes are local. Others are focused worldwide. All of them call on the public to make a difference. In a public outcry.
A public outcry that can easily become a ‘grass-roots-movement’ that will ultimately move the changes we are all already experiencing up into local, and later country-wide leadership. And while at first it seems like the public outcry causes discord, ultimately it has the potential to bring a sense of oneness into being that heretofore has been unknown to humanity.
Now, this doesn’t mean that we all should join any cause that crosses our view as we browse the internet. Discernment is a good thing! But if their is a cause that is brought to your attention that really strikes a cord with you ~ joining it may do more than helping out that one cause...
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There is no doubt in my mind that we are living in changing times.
We are changing, our lives are changing. Our values are changing. The very energy around us is changing... It stands to reason that we will come to expect our governments to start changing too. Perhaps not necessarily in changing political directions; or even changing political leaders as such. But certainly from a perspective where the conduct of our political leaders changes...
As of now it seems like politicians are still operating according to ‘how it has always been’. With all the political play, backstabbing and yes, a certain amount of dishonesty ~ or at least circumstances where not the whole truth is being told. And not in the least an attitude that they will tell us what is best for us.
In more and more situations we know very well what is best for us ~ and that is not always the same thing our governments tell us is best for us.
And as we are changing, our lives are changing, our values are changing ~ and governments that are still telling us what is best for us according to old, if not ancient, standards; a gap is opening. In essences a gap between ‘us’, the public, and ‘them’, our leaders.
In any number of situations where common sense seems to point toward a good solution ~ which then is blocked by our leaders because it doesn’t fit their perspective on the (or even their) future ~ a public outcry ensues.
This becomes quite obvious on the internet where more and more sites come up organizing petitions for a great variety of causes.
Some of the causes are local. Others are focused worldwide. All of them call on the public to make a difference. In a public outcry.
A public outcry that can easily become a ‘grass-roots-movement’ that will ultimately move the changes we are all already experiencing up into local, and later country-wide leadership. And while at first it seems like the public outcry causes discord, ultimately it has the potential to bring a sense of oneness into being that heretofore has been unknown to humanity.
Now, this doesn’t mean that we all should join any cause that crosses our view as we browse the internet. Discernment is a good thing! But if their is a cause that is brought to your attention that really strikes a cord with you ~ joining it may do more than helping out that one cause...
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Tuesday, August 20, 2013
Living by your own rules
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It is certainly a good idea to live by your own rules.
It does require that you discover the things that are important to you; the things you value above all else. That you find your own truth, and are willing to to act accordingly.
In doing so, you may set yourself apart from others. In living according to your own rules you set yourself up to express your unique potential to the fullest extend. You place yourself in a position to truly shape your own life. To manifest life the way you want it to be, on your conditions.
That is a powerful position to be in!
The danger of living by your own rules lies in the possibility that you only accept your own rules. and discard all others. Whether they make sense or not.
Every once in a while we may see that happening in traffic, where people sometimes seem to create their own rules to act on ~ and consequently they may drive a exceedingly high speeds, run traffic lights or do something simple like parking in a ‘no-parking-zone’. Because as they have their own set of rules, the regular traffic rules don’t apply to them...
A similar situation may come up while traveling, hiking or sporting.
The difference is that while in traffic we usually on some level understand quite well why those rules are there ~ even if we don’t like playing by them ~ we don’t always have the same comprehension of why the rules exist and what the consequences of breaking them are. And even when we do grasp why the rules were set up ~ for instance to keep us safe while embarking on an endeavor that we may not be very familiar with ~ we feel that ‘bad things only happen to other people’. Therefore the rules don’t apply to us.
In the first example, we don’t only put ourselves at risk, but also all those around us at the time. In the second example we mainly put ourselves at risk. Although when we do get into a situation where we need rescuing, those coming to our aid may enter into a dangerous situation just because we felt that the rules don’t apply to us. Because bad things don’t happen to us.
Because we live by our own rules ~ to the extreme.
It is a good thing to live by our own rules. It is also a good thing to play by the rules of society ~ like traffic and safety rules. As with most things, it is all about keeping the balance. Yet if we do keep the balance, we will find ourselves to be very powerful people.
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It is certainly a good idea to live by your own rules.
It does require that you discover the things that are important to you; the things you value above all else. That you find your own truth, and are willing to to act accordingly.
In doing so, you may set yourself apart from others. In living according to your own rules you set yourself up to express your unique potential to the fullest extend. You place yourself in a position to truly shape your own life. To manifest life the way you want it to be, on your conditions.
That is a powerful position to be in!
The danger of living by your own rules lies in the possibility that you only accept your own rules. and discard all others. Whether they make sense or not.
Every once in a while we may see that happening in traffic, where people sometimes seem to create their own rules to act on ~ and consequently they may drive a exceedingly high speeds, run traffic lights or do something simple like parking in a ‘no-parking-zone’. Because as they have their own set of rules, the regular traffic rules don’t apply to them...
A similar situation may come up while traveling, hiking or sporting.
The difference is that while in traffic we usually on some level understand quite well why those rules are there ~ even if we don’t like playing by them ~ we don’t always have the same comprehension of why the rules exist and what the consequences of breaking them are. And even when we do grasp why the rules were set up ~ for instance to keep us safe while embarking on an endeavor that we may not be very familiar with ~ we feel that ‘bad things only happen to other people’. Therefore the rules don’t apply to us.
In the first example, we don’t only put ourselves at risk, but also all those around us at the time. In the second example we mainly put ourselves at risk. Although when we do get into a situation where we need rescuing, those coming to our aid may enter into a dangerous situation just because we felt that the rules don’t apply to us. Because bad things don’t happen to us.
Because we live by our own rules ~ to the extreme.
It is a good thing to live by our own rules. It is also a good thing to play by the rules of society ~ like traffic and safety rules. As with most things, it is all about keeping the balance. Yet if we do keep the balance, we will find ourselves to be very powerful people.
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Friday, August 16, 2013
Simple
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Nowadays, it seems that nothing is simple anymore.
There are so many things we need to do ~ chores, grocery shopping, spending time with family or friends; not to forget our jobs... On top of that we are bombarded with information through TV, radio, and the internet. Luckily we have music to listen to on our MP3 players or phones when we are on our way to get from one place to another ~ which can automatically be interrupted when somebody tries to reach us by phone, email, etc.
All in all this has us on our toes 24/7. Busy with something all the time.
Pretty soon our lives that at one time seemed so clear and simple, get to a point at which things get muddied; messy. We try to focus on so many things ~ non of them necessarily complex ~ yet the multitude of them seems to make even the simplest among them difficult.
Before we know it, we find ourselves in a potential overwhelm situation.
And nothing we think or do is simple from that moment on.
It is when I reach that point that I think to myself: life shouldn’t be as hard as this. Life should be much simpler...
So I start organizing my schedule, taking a bit more time to rest. I begin setting up to-do lists, don’t forget lists, and so on. And it works for me at least for a week or two ~ after that I slowly but certainly slide back into the same hectic overwhelm situation. Until I come to that point where I tell myself that my life should be much simpler... Again.
The thing is, that up to now I have tried to fix the complexities of my life by organizing everything around me. It occurred to me that the one thing I never tried before is to change me.
To see what attitudes I have that stand in the way of my life being the simple, focussed life I desire. To explore ~ looking at all the things I do ~ what I really want to do, as opposed to doing them because ‘I have always done them’. To find out where I can be most productive; where I find most fulfillment.
As it turns out this approach works much better for me.
The more I learn about what my part is in creating the hectic every-day environment I so want to escape ~ the more I discover the ‘real me’.
And the simpler my life is becoming...
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Nowadays, it seems that nothing is simple anymore.
There are so many things we need to do ~ chores, grocery shopping, spending time with family or friends; not to forget our jobs... On top of that we are bombarded with information through TV, radio, and the internet. Luckily we have music to listen to on our MP3 players or phones when we are on our way to get from one place to another ~ which can automatically be interrupted when somebody tries to reach us by phone, email, etc.
All in all this has us on our toes 24/7. Busy with something all the time.
Pretty soon our lives that at one time seemed so clear and simple, get to a point at which things get muddied; messy. We try to focus on so many things ~ non of them necessarily complex ~ yet the multitude of them seems to make even the simplest among them difficult.
Before we know it, we find ourselves in a potential overwhelm situation.
And nothing we think or do is simple from that moment on.
It is when I reach that point that I think to myself: life shouldn’t be as hard as this. Life should be much simpler...
So I start organizing my schedule, taking a bit more time to rest. I begin setting up to-do lists, don’t forget lists, and so on. And it works for me at least for a week or two ~ after that I slowly but certainly slide back into the same hectic overwhelm situation. Until I come to that point where I tell myself that my life should be much simpler... Again.
The thing is, that up to now I have tried to fix the complexities of my life by organizing everything around me. It occurred to me that the one thing I never tried before is to change me.
To see what attitudes I have that stand in the way of my life being the simple, focussed life I desire. To explore ~ looking at all the things I do ~ what I really want to do, as opposed to doing them because ‘I have always done them’. To find out where I can be most productive; where I find most fulfillment.
As it turns out this approach works much better for me.
The more I learn about what my part is in creating the hectic every-day environment I so want to escape ~ the more I discover the ‘real me’.
And the simpler my life is becoming...
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Tuesday, August 13, 2013
Pets
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I am not ashamed to admit that I talk with my pets.
And with the trees across the street, the flowers in the patio, and sometimes even with the weather. As it turns out, one could say that I am in good company; the aunt of the Dutch King, as well as the son of the British Queen have in the past eluded to the fact that they talk with trees ~ I can only assume that they also talk with their pets, as well as with nature in a broader perspective...
Like many people who talk to their pets, I am pretty much convinced that they talk back to me. Perhaps not in words, or conveying any complex issues. But they are certain to let me know when the food is not exactly as they desire ~ and a look is often all it takes. Followed by the noses going up in the air, and a haughty departure.
It is a lot more difficult to determine what the message is when it is not instigated by my actions. When things are changing in the neighborhood; when something is ‘in the air’ ~ pets have a tendency to keep working on getting that message across. What it is, who it is about; the bigger the change, the more insistent they are.
And it is not just pets who have a lot to say about those things; as it turns out pretty much all animals react and are ‘talking about it’. Ever wondered why that flock of crows suddenly seemed to take up residence in the nearby stand of trees, making lots of noise ~ only to disappear as suddenly as they arrived. Sometimes already after just a couple of days? Or why that one year your garden was suddenly filled with ladybugs? Why the dove as it flew away dropped that one feather right in front of you?
It is not like only our pets communicate with us; it is just that we get more used to our pets, to the way in which they attract our attention when something is going on. We get used to their ‘language’, just as they learn ours ~ making communication easier.
However, that doesn’t have anything to do with actually listening.
Our pets can have a perfectly clear understanding of what we would like them to do at that moment, and still pretend like they didn’t hear us. With us humans it is often the other way around ~ we are totally aware that our pets are trying to get our attention, yet we truly have no clue.
I often wonder about all the things our pets can teach us, if we would understand...
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I am not ashamed to admit that I talk with my pets.
And with the trees across the street, the flowers in the patio, and sometimes even with the weather. As it turns out, one could say that I am in good company; the aunt of the Dutch King, as well as the son of the British Queen have in the past eluded to the fact that they talk with trees ~ I can only assume that they also talk with their pets, as well as with nature in a broader perspective...
Like many people who talk to their pets, I am pretty much convinced that they talk back to me. Perhaps not in words, or conveying any complex issues. But they are certain to let me know when the food is not exactly as they desire ~ and a look is often all it takes. Followed by the noses going up in the air, and a haughty departure.
It is a lot more difficult to determine what the message is when it is not instigated by my actions. When things are changing in the neighborhood; when something is ‘in the air’ ~ pets have a tendency to keep working on getting that message across. What it is, who it is about; the bigger the change, the more insistent they are.
And it is not just pets who have a lot to say about those things; as it turns out pretty much all animals react and are ‘talking about it’. Ever wondered why that flock of crows suddenly seemed to take up residence in the nearby stand of trees, making lots of noise ~ only to disappear as suddenly as they arrived. Sometimes already after just a couple of days? Or why that one year your garden was suddenly filled with ladybugs? Why the dove as it flew away dropped that one feather right in front of you?
It is not like only our pets communicate with us; it is just that we get more used to our pets, to the way in which they attract our attention when something is going on. We get used to their ‘language’, just as they learn ours ~ making communication easier.
However, that doesn’t have anything to do with actually listening.
Our pets can have a perfectly clear understanding of what we would like them to do at that moment, and still pretend like they didn’t hear us. With us humans it is often the other way around ~ we are totally aware that our pets are trying to get our attention, yet we truly have no clue.
I often wonder about all the things our pets can teach us, if we would understand...
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Friday, August 9, 2013
Environment
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There are few things we would like to control more than our environment.
We make our houses our homes; making them our own such that we can be truly comfortable and secure inside. Then we go through considerably trouble getting the colors, the lighting and the temperature ‘just so’.
And in all fairness, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. After all it is about our homes!
By the same token we landscape our gardens and parks. Even a lot of forest areas are the way they are because of human intervention of some kind. We build our roads to suit the traffic; make them wider when needed. We dedicate areas to grow our food.
And as long as we stay on top of things we can totally and successfully manage our environment.
Granted, we will need to come up with chemicals that will specifically kill nature’s input into our controlled environment, the ‘weeds’. We need to choose our crops such that they will thrive in the environment we have created for them ~ and then make sure that they won’t be eaten by insects. But for that we have more chemicals. And even genetic engineering.
Yet how far can we control our environment exactly?
We may be able to control ‘weeds’ and ‘pests’, yet we cannot control the weather into any kind of predictability ~ even though we may try. Climate changes seem well beyond our control...
And history has shown that as soon as we give up shaping our environment, nature takes over pretty quickly. No matter how much black top and concrete were there ~ give it a couple of years and trees will have found a way to grow through it all.
At the end of the day ~ for me at least ~ the question comes up:
Why do we want to control so much of our environment? Why do we want nature to bend to our will?
Wouldn’t it be easier to work with nature; with our natural environment? To allow ourselves to be fed and nurtured by the earth?
The entire attitude that says that we need to control our environment seems to assume that we need to make things happen. That the Earth in itself has neither a plan, nor a consciousness that will take care of its and our survival...
And then again ~ what if the Earth does have a consciousness and a benevolent plan that would allow us to walk its surface, to be fed and clothed and comfortable?
Would that mean that our need to control things might do irreparable damage to our environment?
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There are few things we would like to control more than our environment.
We make our houses our homes; making them our own such that we can be truly comfortable and secure inside. Then we go through considerably trouble getting the colors, the lighting and the temperature ‘just so’.
And in all fairness, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. After all it is about our homes!
By the same token we landscape our gardens and parks. Even a lot of forest areas are the way they are because of human intervention of some kind. We build our roads to suit the traffic; make them wider when needed. We dedicate areas to grow our food.
And as long as we stay on top of things we can totally and successfully manage our environment.
Granted, we will need to come up with chemicals that will specifically kill nature’s input into our controlled environment, the ‘weeds’. We need to choose our crops such that they will thrive in the environment we have created for them ~ and then make sure that they won’t be eaten by insects. But for that we have more chemicals. And even genetic engineering.
Yet how far can we control our environment exactly?
We may be able to control ‘weeds’ and ‘pests’, yet we cannot control the weather into any kind of predictability ~ even though we may try. Climate changes seem well beyond our control...
And history has shown that as soon as we give up shaping our environment, nature takes over pretty quickly. No matter how much black top and concrete were there ~ give it a couple of years and trees will have found a way to grow through it all.
At the end of the day ~ for me at least ~ the question comes up:
Why do we want to control so much of our environment? Why do we want nature to bend to our will?
Wouldn’t it be easier to work with nature; with our natural environment? To allow ourselves to be fed and nurtured by the earth?
The entire attitude that says that we need to control our environment seems to assume that we need to make things happen. That the Earth in itself has neither a plan, nor a consciousness that will take care of its and our survival...
And then again ~ what if the Earth does have a consciousness and a benevolent plan that would allow us to walk its surface, to be fed and clothed and comfortable?
Would that mean that our need to control things might do irreparable damage to our environment?
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Tuesday, August 6, 2013
What to release?
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Recently I have come to the conclusion that I am carrying too much along with me on my personal path through life. It is becoming clear that it is time to start releasing at least some of it. The real question is, what to release?
My house is small, and looking around there is plenty of ‘stuff’ in it.
On the other hand, if I would set aside all things I need for my business ~ what remains is not that bad. As it turns out, most of it I really enjoy! So when it comes to releasing things, that doesn’t seem to be it.
Like most people I do have an attitude or two that I could probably do without; or even that if I would release them would start making life easier. Seems like that is a good start.
And then there are habits that have long since served their purpose... Like rethinking what already has happened ~ once upon a time a method to learn from made mistakes ~ or over-thinking what hasn’t happened yet ~ which long time ago seemed a good way to plan for all contingencies.
It is surprising how much energy these take. And on top of that, getting wrapped up in rethinking and/or over-thinking will totally prevent living at this moment. Enjoying this very moment. Leaving no time to smell the roses.
Most definitely something I can do without at this point in my life ~ I am so ready to release these!
As I am pondering the question, I realize there is (at least) one more thing that has been part of my luggage for a long time ~ that is not adding anything to the quality of my life. Never has; unlikely it ever will... It is a certain frustration I feel about the words and actions of others. Not just any others, but family and friends.
The type of situation seems to make things harder for me. Sometimes because I have to do ‘double duty’. Other times because the very best I can do is met with a lack of respect and appreciation.
Yet whichever way you look at it, I have no influence over the actions, the behavior of others.
The thing is, it is not the extra work I am facing that makes this a weighty burden ~ it is my sense of frustration about something I cannot change: the behavior the other person is choosing.
It is this very specific frustration ~ that will only take away from who I am ~ that I want to release most of all.
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Recently I have come to the conclusion that I am carrying too much along with me on my personal path through life. It is becoming clear that it is time to start releasing at least some of it. The real question is, what to release?
My house is small, and looking around there is plenty of ‘stuff’ in it.
On the other hand, if I would set aside all things I need for my business ~ what remains is not that bad. As it turns out, most of it I really enjoy! So when it comes to releasing things, that doesn’t seem to be it.
Like most people I do have an attitude or two that I could probably do without; or even that if I would release them would start making life easier. Seems like that is a good start.
And then there are habits that have long since served their purpose... Like rethinking what already has happened ~ once upon a time a method to learn from made mistakes ~ or over-thinking what hasn’t happened yet ~ which long time ago seemed a good way to plan for all contingencies.
It is surprising how much energy these take. And on top of that, getting wrapped up in rethinking and/or over-thinking will totally prevent living at this moment. Enjoying this very moment. Leaving no time to smell the roses.
Most definitely something I can do without at this point in my life ~ I am so ready to release these!
As I am pondering the question, I realize there is (at least) one more thing that has been part of my luggage for a long time ~ that is not adding anything to the quality of my life. Never has; unlikely it ever will... It is a certain frustration I feel about the words and actions of others. Not just any others, but family and friends.
The type of situation seems to make things harder for me. Sometimes because I have to do ‘double duty’. Other times because the very best I can do is met with a lack of respect and appreciation.
Yet whichever way you look at it, I have no influence over the actions, the behavior of others.
The thing is, it is not the extra work I am facing that makes this a weighty burden ~ it is my sense of frustration about something I cannot change: the behavior the other person is choosing.
It is this very specific frustration ~ that will only take away from who I am ~ that I want to release most of all.
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Friday, August 2, 2013
Movement of change
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Every move we make, every step we take brings change into our lives.
Even if it is just minor changes because we as a person move on from one thing in order to embark on something new. A new hobby, a new activity, a new job. All things that come naturally as we move through life. All movements that we desire and hope for. And even though we understand that things will change as a result of our taking on new things ~ we may feel that we ourselves don’t have to change at all. We are the constant. We are in control.
Looking at it from this perspective seems a little backward.
After all, we like to move; we like to start new things; we take steps on our personal paths such that we can grow and evolve. And with every step we take, we change. We renew ourselves. Change ourselves.
It is from this inner changes that the desire to do new things is born.
And as we start doing these new things, we gain new experiences. Which allow us to move forward on our personal paths.
Changing us, often without us even noticing ourselves.
And as we hardly notice the tiny changes that take place every day in ourselves, we feel we are in control.
The thing is that the moment we get to a point where we feel we need to change ~ whether it is to adapt to changing circumstances, life styles, eating patterns, or whatever ~ we have a tendency to resist. Suddenly we feel quite apprehensive about moving forward as it will require us to change. In a sense, we feel that ~ as these changes are ‘forced upon us’ we are losing control.
And while we may stay in limbo for a while ~ eventually we either back off, or we go for it. Either way we move; and as we move, we change.
From this perspective it seems that changes are not as much something that we need to take overate action to bring them into our lives. Changes happen as a direct result of movement ~ be it physical, mental, emotional or spiritual movement.
As such, all we need to do is to permitting movement to occur in our lives. And as we do, changes happen in a gentle manner. Allowing the pieces to come together; often forming a picture more beautiful than we could ever have imagined...
While we move, doing the things we want to do ~ even if they are just chores ~ we change. As we change we gain new perspectives; start new movements.
It is an ever evolving spiral on our personal paths.
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Every move we make, every step we take brings change into our lives.
Even if it is just minor changes because we as a person move on from one thing in order to embark on something new. A new hobby, a new activity, a new job. All things that come naturally as we move through life. All movements that we desire and hope for. And even though we understand that things will change as a result of our taking on new things ~ we may feel that we ourselves don’t have to change at all. We are the constant. We are in control.
Looking at it from this perspective seems a little backward.
After all, we like to move; we like to start new things; we take steps on our personal paths such that we can grow and evolve. And with every step we take, we change. We renew ourselves. Change ourselves.
It is from this inner changes that the desire to do new things is born.
And as we start doing these new things, we gain new experiences. Which allow us to move forward on our personal paths.
Changing us, often without us even noticing ourselves.
And as we hardly notice the tiny changes that take place every day in ourselves, we feel we are in control.
The thing is that the moment we get to a point where we feel we need to change ~ whether it is to adapt to changing circumstances, life styles, eating patterns, or whatever ~ we have a tendency to resist. Suddenly we feel quite apprehensive about moving forward as it will require us to change. In a sense, we feel that ~ as these changes are ‘forced upon us’ we are losing control.
And while we may stay in limbo for a while ~ eventually we either back off, or we go for it. Either way we move; and as we move, we change.
From this perspective it seems that changes are not as much something that we need to take overate action to bring them into our lives. Changes happen as a direct result of movement ~ be it physical, mental, emotional or spiritual movement.
As such, all we need to do is to permitting movement to occur in our lives. And as we do, changes happen in a gentle manner. Allowing the pieces to come together; often forming a picture more beautiful than we could ever have imagined...
While we move, doing the things we want to do ~ even if they are just chores ~ we change. As we change we gain new perspectives; start new movements.
It is an ever evolving spiral on our personal paths.
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